And now, I bring you a Monday dilemna to help me sort out.
We're having a little problem with our little man. Keep in mind, he's turning 3 in August, and for several months now we have had
It's gotten to the point at preschool that the director meets us at our car to come get Jackson as opposed to us walking him in because he gets so upset when we leave.
And y'all, it just about kills me.
I hate leaving him like that. I hate seeing the tears and hearing the crying. I hate being "that" parent whose child has such extreme problems with separation.
And I know that within a few minutes of us leaving that he quits crying. And I know that he always has a good day at school because he and his teachers tell me so. He's a great kid, and is dearly loved at his school. He just hates being left.
And for as many people have told me, "this too shall pass" I want to just say to them, "How does that help me NOW?"
And y'all, I'm just tired of it...
So, from one parent to another, I would love some advice or words of wisdom to help us through this.
But please don't tell me, "this too shall pass."
2 random thoughts:
I will give you the best advice ever given to me. I know I've told you before that Gracie went through the same thing. The longer you stay and try to comfort/console him, the worse things will get.
I'm sure he knows anyway, but when you leave him - tell him you love him and you'll be back as soon as church is over. Then leave.
I know that sounds kind of cold and harsh, but it worked for Gracie. And every once in a while when she wants to be clingy or put on the water works, I do the exact same thing all over again.
This happened with Harrison. He was so bad they would actually take him out and walk him around the preschool area. I was the bad guy and told them they were just "feeding" his problem. My husband could not "drop and go" so I had to do it every time. It was HARD and took a LONG time (it seemed like it anyway) but he finally got over it. I think the more attention he got the worse it got.
Have you tried giving him a little plastic album ($1 store)with family pics in it to keep with him? Or a fav. stuffed animal- some do not want to start the habit of carrying a stuffed thing- but it could "report" his behavior back to you.
Good Luck!
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